When witches walk
and goblins stalk
and all the ghosts convene,
then please draw near
so you can hear
new rhymes for Halloween!
Little Miss Muffet
sat on a tuffet
eating her curds
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This is what I'd like to tell her now, and what I wish I could've (should've?) told her in the moment:
You tell me that you love me. As if I were your daughter by blood. Maybe that wasn't the problem. Maybe you just should've... liked me a little bit more.
Last weekend, you seemed to enjoy the "Filipino" food my white father made. You felt it was ok to expose your son to aspects of a non-white culture then. The "pancit" he attempted, which definitely wasn't pancit but he kept arguing that it was. Maybe I was too hard on him since it couldn't possibly compare to my Lola's pancit she's been making for over 50 years. Or maybe I was right. Either way, you enjoyed my culture then right? Well, that's convenient.
I was the only Filipino, the only Asian girl in my kindergarten class, and my best friend was the only black girl. My next-door neighbors were the only other black people, the only other family of color in my neighborhood. The downside of living in a gentrified neighborhood is the stares their daughters and I would get when we played outside. All things considered, I guess we were lucky that was the extent of the attention we received.
In middle school, a young black man I knew was killed. A boy I knew. A boy I had class with. A boy. How the hell is an 11-year-old supposed to react to that? While many are fortunate enough not to go through a similar tragedy, how can you disrespect the experiences of my black friends, teachers, and mentors whose lives can't just be turned off on a computer screen? The black and brown children who suffer due to your blindness and the callous disregard of the reality of those around you. The types of experiences that your son will never have to go through.
Tell me, your ignorance is bliss for whom, exactly?